Nothing. A cushion or soft toy can be used when the child prefers space.
What to Say
“Would you like a hug my hand or a little space?”
“I am here with you.”
“We can take one comfortable breath together if you want.”
“Nothing has to change straight away.”
What to Do
STEP 1 Offer a clear choice between a hug hand contact or nearby space.
STEP 2 Respect the child’s answer immediately.
STEP 3 If closeness is chosen settle into a comfortable position.
STEP 4 Notice one or two natural breaths together without changing them.
STEP 5 Finish with reassurance and allow more space if needed.
JOIN YOUR CHILD Regulate your own voice posture and breathing first. The child does not need to match your breath or respond verbally.
If Your Child Does Not Want to Participate
Space is a complete and valid choice. Stay nearby if appropriate and do not repeatedly ask for physical contact.
Make It Your Own
• Use a soft toy or cushion for indirect comfort.
• Sit side by side instead of face to face.
• Use a visual choice card.
• For children who seek movement walk slowly together instead.
Your child may lean closer hold a hand choose distance soften their voice or simply remain near you. Connection can look different across children and situations.
A GENTLE SAFETY REMINDER Never force or prolong physical contact. Respect signs of discomfort and individual sensory needs. If the child is unsafe focus on immediate protection and seek appropriate help.
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